Attending weddings and other special events is always loads of fun, but figuring what to wear can be a real hassle. Although most invitations come with dress code preferences, it’s often difficult to decipher their meaning. For example, you may be left wondering how “black tie optional” is different from “cocktail attire,” whether business casual is the same as smart casual, or if showing up to a wedding wearing jeans and sneakers is ever acceptable. So, in order to clear away the stress surrounding special occasion apparel, we have devoted today’s article on answering these questions. In doing so, we will focus on one of the most popular styles, the cocktail attire.
Cocktail attire is smarter than casual clothes, but more relaxed than formal apparel. This creates comfort, while ensuring you still look your best
First of all, let’s look at the main types of formal and semi-formal apparel. We will begin with the fanciest options and move down to the less solemn ones:
White Tie (formal)
The most formal of all clothes options, the white tie apparel is reserved for very special events, such as balls or state dinners. It is very rarely seen at weddings or other celebrations. For men, the white tie dress code consists of a black tailcoat, a white shirt, black high-waisted trousers with one or two black satin stripes, a white waistcoat, black patent leather shoes, and, of course, a white bow tie. Accessories may include smart white or grey gloves and understated but classy cuff links. For women, the code includes a full-length ball gown, often worn with long evening gloves, a purse, and smart jewelry.
Black Tie (formal)
Black tie is a common dress code for smart occasions, such as large corporate events or award ceremonies. It is characterized by a tuxedo jacket, combined with black trousers, a white shirt and a black bow tie for men, and a ball gown (or a particularly fancy cocktail dress) for women. If the event in question takes place during the summer or at a tropical location, it is acceptable to replace the black tuxedo jacket with a white dinner jacket.
When it comes to smart apparel, blue is always an excellent choice!
Black Tie Optional (semi-formal)
Probably the most widely used dress code today, the black tie optional is quite smart in appearance, but nevertheless allows some room for creativity. The stars you see on the red carpet of the Academy Awards are usually dressed in this very style. While a tuxedo is technically acceptable, most men prefer wearing suits in classic colors such as black, navy blue or dark grey. These are accompanied by a white shirt, a smart conservative tie, dark socks and dark leather shoes. Women can choose between a full-length ball gown and a smart cocktail dress. Classy little black dresses are also acceptable, provided they are not too short.
Cocktail Attire (semi-formal)
Cocktail attire is the preferred choice for weddings, jubilees or formal birthday parties. Here things start getting fun – men can choose a suit in a smart shade, accompanied by a dress shirt in a pale color of their choice (checkered and pin-stripe patterns are also accepted). Bow/neck ties are optional, as are accessories such as pocket handkerchiefs or boutonnieres. For women, the options include a short but classy cocktail dress, a little black dress, a fancy skirt and top combination, or even a dressy jumpsuit.
The cocktail attire for men, explained:
Wedding guest outfits come in many colors and styles!
Reiss’ advice for styling a cocktail outfit for women
Smart/business casual (semi-formal/casual)
Like its name suggests, this dress code is usually reserved for work-related events such as business meetings. However, in recent years it has become a fashion staple for men and women alike. The smart or business casual style for men consists of a suit worn with a dressy shirt, or a smart blazer, paired up with classy trousers and a shirt. As for acceptable footwear – patent oxford shoes, brogues or suede loafers (in summer) – are all excellent options. Some gents choose to add a playful note to their outfit, by pairing smart apparel with clean white converse sneakers, or sporty lace up shoes.
For women, the business casual offers a lot of options – a pencil skirt worn with a dressy top, a blazer combined with a shirt and a pair of smart trousers, a fancy day dress accessorized with a chic cardigan, and many more.
Be classy and stylish!
We have gone through the most important smart and semi-smart dress codes, but this doesn’t mean that our job is done! Before we let you enjoy our inspirational outfit gallery, we would like to share a few key do-s and don’t-s, which will save you a lot of stress (and possibly even embarrassment) in the future.
- Jeans are never ever acceptable for a formal event. It might sound obvious but you’d be surprised how many people ignore this simple rule of thumb! Showing up in denim is a big no-no, unless specifically stated otherwise by the invitation or host.
- Ideally, men should avoid apparel in garish colors and/or featuring unusual patterns.
- Feeling sexy is important, but women shouldn’t confuse formal attire with clubbing outfits! If you are going to a smart event – ditch the micro skirts and sheer fabrics. There is a time and place for everything.
- Don’t upstage the host – this goes for men as well as women. Make sure you know what the host will be wearing so you don’t show up dressed fancier then them! There is no shame in asking in advance – rest assured they’d be happy to let you know.
- If you are ever in doubt, remember – it is always better to arrive overdressed, rather than underdressed, at a formal do!
Black tie optional – an irresistible look
We hope you found our article useful! Now we invite you to enjoy our gallery – we have selected 70 + inspirational outfit cocktail attire ideas for women and men. Don’t forget to check out our website for more tips on wedding apparel.
A smart outfit for men, suitable for almost any occasion:
Wedding guest etiquette 101:
Cocktail attire suitable for a wedding, or any smart party
Ready for a business meeting or a formal event
We love this sharply dressed couple’s style!
“Clothes and manners do not make the man; but when he is made, they greatly improve his appearance.”
Who said wearing a suit was boring?!
The perfect shoes to complete a gentleman’s outfit
A super stylish couple
The devil’s in the details – we love the silver necktie and matching pocket handkerchief!
Black tie optional – the preferred look of gentleman spies
How to wear business casual in summer:
Chic cocktail outfit suggestion for ladies…
Three cocktail attire looks, straight from the red carpet
How to choose the right cocktail dress for your body type:
The Duchess of Cambridge is a true professional when it comes to choosing the right formal and semi-formal attire
Some colorful options, suitable for semi-formal events
Cocktail attire explained in brief
It’s hard not to love this charming couple’s complementing outfits!
More stylish suggestions for men:
Black tie outfits on the red carpet
Stylish cocktail dresses for all figure types
Four exciting suggestions, suitable for guests attending a summer wedding
When style meets high fashion
There are so many reasons to love the business casual style for men
Black tie, smart casual, and cocktail attire, demonstrated by Hollywood stars
We hope you’ve enjoyed our selection!